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Stress comes in all forms and from all directions…, especially for families in these super- busy, technologically-advanced, yet sometimes-tough, economic times.

➡️ However, even with the technology we have available to us, one of the biggest causes of stress in a family is lack of communication.

The unfortunate reality is that kids communicate with seemingly everyone but their family… through texting, email, Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat. Nowadays, it can be tough to get through to your kids, which makes it a challenge to strengthen your family’s bond.

Getting Involved with Your Kids 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧

One way to get more involved with your kids is to start communicating in a way that they’ll actually listen.

This may mean that you’ll need to learn how to text, email and get on the social networks your kids are on. {Yes! “Friend” them on Facebook!} The whole idea is to be a source of support for your children, and that means you need to be an active player in their lives, despite the fact that they may try to push you away, at first.

Even if you get active in your child’s life online, the best way to communicate with your kids is while they’re at home. Talk to them face to face and don’t be afraid to ask questions. You might be surprised at how they respond. At first, it may seem awkward, but the more you do it, the easier communication becomes.

Communication with Your Spouse 👩❤️👨

If you’re lacking an open line of communication with your spouse, one reason may be that you’re not speaking each other’s love language or understanding their relationship style. This means that you need to discover what your spouse responds to the best.

Is it touch, the words you say, gifts, acts of service, or spending quality time together? Once you know how to show love to your spouse, show it that way abundantly!

Also, listen as your spouse expresses feelings, as this will often give you ideas about how you can fill their “love tank.”

{Yes – we all have “love tanks” that need to be filled! Even you!}

If your spouse says something along the lines of, “You never hug me anymore,” or she wants to hold hands all the time, her love language is probably physical touch. If your spouse often uses the phrase, “We never spend any time together,” and likes to just sit and talk, his love language is most likely quality time.

Spend Quality Time with Your Family ⏰

Another big stress on today’s family is not spending enough time together. This is most likely because everyone is so busily involved in other activities that you barely have time for yourself, let alone one another.

So, how can you make time to spend with your family?
  1. Set aside at least one day out of each week and deem it Family Day or Game Night. Spending quality time with your family shows that you’re interested in what they’re doing and that you care about them. Often teens think that their parents don’t care about them because they’re never home, or they feel that their parents play a passive role in their lives. And because kids and teens often don’t spend quality time with their families, they go elsewhere to get the attention they crave. Unfortunately, elsewhere may not be a good place for your kids to be! {For more on this, see the BONUS** section at the end of this report.}
  2. Ensure you make time for your spouse. Time alone together is important for all marriages. This is the chance for you to continue strengthening your relationship and exploring one another’s dreams and desires for the family unit.
  3. Make sure your family enjoys at least one meal together each day. Statistics show families that eat together, stay together. Children do better in school and the overall atmosphere in the home is simply happier when you make eating together a priority. (For ideas on what to serve, check out my Healthimom’s Cookbook: A Recipe Bonanza of Tried-and-True Favorites.)

The Financial Burden 💰

Financial problems are another cause of major stress in families today. Often, when the parents aren’t in control of their finances, their children tend to suffer from the same financial struggles later on in life.

As parents, you must teach your children financial responsibility from an early age. Get your little ones a piggy bank (or some other receptacle) to help them learn about the importance of saving money. As they get older, include them in the budget planning and bill paying. You will, of course, do this at appropriate levels and in suitable ways. The point is to help your children understand the concept of financial responsibility and have a real-world understanding of what things cost.

Children need to know that money must be earned and that your debit or credit card isn’t magically “filled with money” all the time. The best way for them to learn good financial behavior is for you (the parents) to model good financial behavior.

To recap, The Top 5 Family Stress Relievers are:

  1. Communicate by speaking directly to and with your family, in ways they’ll appreciate.
  2. Learn what love language your children and spouse speaks, and use it.
  3. Spend time — quality time — together as a family by setting aside a family day or family game night. ** {See BONUS}
  4. Sit down for at least one meal a day with each other.
  5. Openly (and appropriately) discuss your finances and financial situation with your family.

Incorporating these strategies into your family life will help you have a more open relationship with each family member. You’ll be amazed how these simple “hacks” will relieve a large part of the stress and tension that often crop up in the home. These unfavorable feelings will be replaced by camaraderie, joy, health, and happiness!

**BONUS: A Family Favorite = Family Nights 😊😊😊

Life is hectic and, without making a concentrated effort, it can seem almost impossible to enjoy quality time with your family. To solve this dilemma, schedule a weekly Family Night.

Family Nights can be an incredibly uplifting way to bring your family closer together.

What is Family Night?

Family Night is an evening designated by parents (usually) when everyone in the immediate family suspends their busy social calendars to actually spend time with each other. Some experts suggest that Family Night should occur every week, for example, every Monday night. Parents make it clear that all family members are expected to be present, if at all possible.

One of the jobs parents have is to keep family interaction as positive, illuminating, and fun for the kids as possible. Spending time regularly with family members provides opportunities for everyone to re-connect. Positive family time also instills the value of family in children. Regular Family Nights enable you to accomplish these goals.

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